Self Confidence, Self Belief, Self Respect, Self Worth and Self Esteem all go hand in hand and are all determined by how we perceive ourselves.
“Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance” www.dictionary.com
“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
This is usually demonstrated by our behaviour which shows others just how confident we are. Easy, comfortable conversation, relaxed posture, fluent and fluid speech, not embarrassed or worried about responses from others – indicate a confident person who is comfortable in his/her skin and likes/accepts him/herself for who and what s/he is.
High Self Esteem
- Doing what you believe to be right, regardless of what others think, say or do
- Being willing to take risks if needed to achieve better things.
- Not being afraid to admit your mistakes and learning from them
- Appreciating and acknowledging compliments that are well deserved
- Belief in self and abilities, in control of your life, content and secure in the approval of others
Low Self Esteem
- Adapting behaviour to what you believe others expect
- Staying in your comfort zone and avoid taking risks due to fear of failure
- Afraid to admit mistakes or weaknesses in case people think badly of you
- Feeling the need to convince yourself and others that you are coping well
- Unable to believe that compliments are genuine and dismissing them
Low self esteem or lack of confidence can usually be tracked back to an experience or event when you felt unworthy, inferior or inadequate. Sometimes it’s a harsh word or comment such as – “You are useless” Who would love you?” “ You will never amount to anything” “ Its all your fault” “ You are so ugly, fat, stupid…”etc
These words are believed and become embedded and affect behaviour which results in a lack of confidence and low self esteem or self worth.